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Non Fatal Loss of Child
There are many reasons why children cease to be part of a persons life. It may be that the parent has experienced illness, divorce, domestic abuse, forced adoption, SGO, parental alienation, incarceration, detention of liberty or the child has been abducted to another country or within the United Kingdom as part of a manipulative tool to retain power over a fleeing parent. Also there may be professional parties involved, following on from allegations of physical, sexual or emotional abuse that leave highly traumatised protective parents vulnerable to what is perceived by many as a exceptionally invasive and highly manipulative damaging social services and CAFCASS involvement which may run counter to CPS involvements. Clients frequently report that they have been manipulated by a system that they thought would protect their children. We are non judgemental.
Our expertise is in cases where the children have been removed through public law, private law or criminal law procedures or by manipulation by another person, usually the hostile parent, using their family or hired 'professionals'.
Sarah Morris is a highly experienced specialist in supporting parents this field and exceptionally knowledgeable about the system. She has a nationally recognised experience of understanding how child removal can happen with these cases involving social services, CAFCASS. Many professionals refer these clients to her for assistance where they cannot help. She is fully supportive of providing therapy to parents in this heavily guarded 'private' legal arena. We understand the damaging psychological impact and challenge people face when being thrown into such a world. Our total focus is the mental health and welfare of you, the client as you enter this hostile and damaging arena.
Being removed from a child is a trauma beyond words for most parents. It is a deathless death where even grief is denied, as the child is not deceased. Many describe it as the 'The Alice in Wonderland' reality. Certainly, how it happens is something you can only truly grasp when you have had to experience it, vicariously as a concerned therapeutic professional with expertise in this field, or from the eyes of the grieving parents and their traumatised children.
If a court has been involved then we find that parents, already emotionally exhausted having fought to keep their children for so long, sometimes for years, leave the court to go home to a house where the child has already been removed in their absence that day. If there was no court and removal has happened privately at the hands of someone the parent once loved, the cognitive dissonance is equally as damaging.
The grief of these parents is something that is so painful it has no name. And there are few who can help because nobody who cares is privy to the cruelty of that these people have to endure in the moments and months and years preceding this point.
These fragile people, consisting of barely more than dust instantly petrify with the shock. There is nobody there to help them and many professionals and family members and friends are left struggling with what can be done to support them in the months that follow.
The reality is that child removal is only the beginning of the dehumanising experience. Many clients tell us that child benefits, working tax credits and council housing benefits are immediately and dispassionately stopped and jobs may be lost due to the inevitable declining mental and physical health of the parent or through interventions by professional organisations. In consequence these struggling people lose their homes and often have to relocate, usually on their own, a long way from their emotional support base. At the same time a society which struggles to comprehend the unthinkable begins to turn its back. A great sadness is that, without malice, friends and family also begin to fall away because the truth is so unbearable and nobody knows what to say. In their own way, they are also grieving.
Due to the nature of private family court, the parents cannot speak about what has happened to them as to do so would break family court orders and would place them in danger of a prison sentence. The threat of this action is often used to further isolate already fatigued parents from reaching out for valuable legal or mental health assistance.
Aside from the ripple effects of damage on our entire society, the implications to the mental well-being of the parent is catastrophic. There is no government agency to help. Often, due to restrictions on disclosure, the parents cannot tell anyone what has happened. It is therefore difficult to obtain therapeutic assistance from anyone who understands. Cruelly, they are often dropped after child removal and told to just 'get over it'.
They rarely do.
This is Where Sarah Morris Therapy Steps In
Sarah Morris and her colleagues are aware of the issues these people face and pick them up, entirely broken from the experience. Often Clients cannot continue functioning as a whole person within our society. Some can literally no longer speak as they are so shocked by the experience. The curtains of their houses close and never reopen. Our counsellors describe these people as being 'as fragile as snowflakes, silently being thrown and shattered by the air and being shaped by the startling and traumatising environment around them'. This is very accurate. By the time they come to us, our clients are as delicate and numb as snowflakes.
Mostly, but not exclusively, they are women.
We will scoop you gently up, guard your heart and mind and carefully help you to rebuild, giving you the greatest of care, respect and time. To do this, we have developed a careful and bespoke all encompassing theraputic service that deals with every aspect of support that you may require. It is time intensive, requires knowledge of a huge range of theraputic methods, current legal practice and debate and is demanding for the counsellors. But it works. It is a diligence and gift that only a few counsellors are able to tackle, but it is rewarding.
Every client of our service without exception has reported that it saved their life. This is the greatest motivator that our counsellors need. We are here for you and we understand all you have been through.
We are sure we can help you to see a way through this dreadful time. There are so far 147 men and women who are alive because of the therapeutic care that Sarah Morris has delivered in a time of crisis to these people.
The therapy will go at the pace that you dictate. You have full control over the content, placings, timings and content of each session. It is imperative that we provide you with continuity and stability and a feeling that you can control everything around you at this time when you will have few other resources that you can have autonomy over at this time. We will involve your family and friends if you wish.
Using the full range of Human Givens techniques and a wealth of knowledge in this area we will begin to provide you with a secure professional relationship with Sarah Morris and an education that will halp you to gain control over your circumstance. You will receive practical assistance, emotional support and mental health therapeutic care. We believe you and we believe IN you.